Semi-Crunchy Mama®

No time for a video? Here are some highlights:

• You can't MAKE your baby sleep and that's OK. You can HELP and support, but that's it.
• Babies can't read and don't know they are "supposed" to be sleeping at/for a given time. Books give averages, but there is a wide range of normal.
• It's NORMAL for babies to wake up a lot, and actually reduces SIDS risk in infants.
• The books I read scared me into thinking that my child needed more sleep than he was getting because he needed to process new information. Some kids need less sleep than others, so as long as your child is happy, they're probably just fine.
• Things that interrupt sleep: teething, illness, developmental and mobility milestones (especially crawling and walking), full moons (wish I was kidding).
• Co-sleeping, bed-sharing, and nursing side-lying were the only way I got any sleep. My son happily moved into his own room at 20 months and is still nursing.
• Starting my night in the guest room and having my husband help the baby back to sleep, or having my husband give him a bottle of pumped milk after 3am also helped me catch up on sleep.
• Seriously, take a nap with the baby, or have a friend come play with the baby for an hour or two while you sleep. People want to help you.
• Wear your baby so they can nap on the go, or at least you have two hands to get things done.
• Change your mindset from "My child SHOULD be sleeping right now" to asking if your child NEEDS to be sleeping right now. They need to build up enough sleep pressure to help them stay asleep.
• My son dropped to 1 nap by his 1st birthday, and stopped napping around his 2nd. He still naps occasionally during growth spurts and developmental leaps, but he sleeps WORSE at night if he has a nap.

Some resources I mention in the video:

• Frequently Asked Questions about Co-Sleeping from Dr. James McKenna
• Safe Co-Sleeping Guidelines from Dr. James McKenna
• Normal Infant Sleep, Part 1 from Evolutionary Parenting
• What Every Sleep Deprived Mother Really Needs to Know from Pinky McKay
• 36 amazing topical webinar recordings on infant and toddler sleep from Isis Parenting - these saved me as a new mom

These books helped me understand baby sleep, or came highly recommended:

• The No-Cry Sleep Solution: Gentle Ways to Help Your Baby Sleep Through the Night by Elizabeth Pantley
• The No-Cry Nap Solution: Guaranteed Gentle Ways to Solve All Your Naptime Problems by Elizabeth Pantley
• The Sleep Lady®'s Good Night, Sleep Tight: Gentle Proven Solutions to Help Your Child Sleep Well and Wake Up Happy

Such a great conversation about an important topic. Thanks to Rachel Rainbolt from Sage Parenting for joining me.

See her post that inspired this conversation here: https://rachelrainbolt.com/your-vulva-is-not-lord-voldemort/

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As an information hoarder, I love to read and research new topics. Pregnancy was no different. I polled some friends, filled up my Amazon cart, and cracked the books.

Quick note! These are generally aimed at "natural" childbirth. If you plan to have an epidural or pain management, or end up with a medically necessary Cesarean, that's totally fine! I still think it's good information to have and they address those, as well. I don't have time to judge you, I have to go figure out what my toddler just ate off the floor. Peace.

Here are the books I personally found most helpful:

• Ina May's Guide to Childbirth is hard to beat. Ina May Gaskin is largely credited with the resurgence of midwifery in the United States and runs a birth center at the Farm commune in Tennessee. Skeptical of a commune resident in prairie skirts telling you about a process that will most likely take place in a hospital? She has authored many papers about childbirth and even has a delivery maneuver named after her. The first half is birth stories which show the wide range of "normal" birth experiences.
• The Thinking Woman's Guide to a Better Birth by Henci Goer was really helpful to me. The author starts out stating that she clearly has a bias, but her bias is based on the conclusions drawn from all the research she did. That's what she covers in the book. It's not about telling you what to do, but offers the studies and statistics that help you make an informed decision about your care.
• The Other Baby Book: A Natural Approach to Baby's First Year isn't written by well-known parenting experts, but it's not far off from the book I would want to write. Two attachment parenting moms offer an easy-to-read guide that validates following your instincts and back it up with science. It's not perfect, but I found it helpful.
• Birthing from Within: An Extra-Ordinary Guide to Childbirth Preparation by Pam England is the most "woo woo" of these, but I found it fascinating. There are also Birthing From Within childbirth prep classes available. She studies the circumstances which cause traumatic birth experiences and works backwards to help you prevent them by unpacking your fears around childbirth. I often suggest getting this from the library first in case it's too much.
• Real Food for Mother and Baby by Nina Planck was an interesting read. Though the author is a follower of the Weston A. Price Foundation ("the raw milk people") who insist no vegetarian diet (mine) can possibly be healthy, I enjoyed Planck's grounded view of eating well during pregnancy to nourish you and your baby. She advocates a whole food diet without being overbearing and adds in her own pregnancy experiences for dimension.
• The Womanly Art of Breastfeeding by La Leche League International is the go-to recommendation for nursing moms. I have not yet read it, but breastfeeding isn't completely instinctive or easy. If you plan to nurse, more support is always better!

No time (or attention span) for books? Here are some websites that offer great information:

• Birth Without Fear posts a beautiful array of birth stories, and show that there isn't a right or a wrong way to meet your baby.
• Evidence Based Birth offers information related to popular questions about pregnancy and childbirth with studies and citations to back it up.
• KellyMom is an amazing breastfeeding resource which covers a number of topics and has plenty of outside links as well.
• Pregnant Chicken, in addition to being pee-your-pants hilarious, also gave me some of the best advice I read during my pregnancy.

If your baby is at or nearing the time to eat solid foods, you may be confused about the right approach.

• Should you start at 4 months or 6 months?
• With rice cereal or whole foods?
• Purees or finger foods?

Your pediatrician may not be giving you updated advice. Learn what the current recommendations are and what you may want to consider in choosing the right path for you and your baby.

Check out a concise and info-packed 30-minute summary, or find the resources for the talk below the video.

When should I start solids?

• Starting Solids - The Facts Behind Today's Media Hype
• Starting Solids - Can Babies Be Ready Before 6 Months & How Will I Know?
• Is my baby ready for solid foods?
• Start Solids: Waiting Is Worth It
• Infant Feeding

How should I give my baby solids?

• Easy Homemade Baby Food
• What is Baby Led Weaning and is it the right approach to Introducing Solid Foods?
• Baby Led Weaning
• Gill Rapley, author of Baby Led Weaning

What should I feed my baby?

• White Out: Save America's babies from obesity
• Why Ditch Infant Cereals
• 9 Good Reasons Not to Use Rice Cereal

Other resources

• Will giving formula or solids at night help baby to sleep better?
• Baby Led Weaning: Introducing Solid Foods to Your Baby

Want more info?

If you want more details and time for live Q&A, join me on March 23rd from the comfort of your own home!