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Have you become a short-order cook making multiple meals for your family? Does your tiny tyrant demand six different foods (@#$%ing granola bars) then refuse to eat any of them? Does the constant whining for snacks make you feel like you’re losing your mind?
You're not alone, and it doesn't have to be that way.
Dinnertime CAN be pleasant. Your child WILL voluntarily eat vegetables someday. And most important: you don't have to worry as much as you think you do.
I know, you probably think I have some unicorn gourmande child who eats kale like candy, but this could never work for your obligate chicken-nuggetarian. But I don’t. My kids hate kale (most of the time - I talk about that specifically)!
But I’m not worried about it.
And that’s why I created this class. Chances are you’re doing 90% of it perfectly. It’s not like you’re feeding your kids Flamin’ Hot Cheetos for breakfast or putting soda in their sippy cup.
But sometimes we dig ourselves a hole trying to do the right thing from the wrong direction. You can’t dig yourself out the same way you got there. You need new tools.
After 6 years as a health coach, I’ve listened to a lot of adults tell me about their relationships with food. After almost 5 years as a mom, I’ve tried to work backwards to figure out how to give my kids a better foundation for making healthy food choices.
I’m a strong believer in Baby Led Weaning, and this is the next step.
In this class you'll learn:
This class was recorded live on October 25, 2017. You get:
If you’re ready to enjoy mealtime again (or at least approach it without a sense of dread), you can. Watch the class, try a new approach, and know that you’re doing the best you can.
The class is only $50 (watch it as many times as you want! Show it to your partner and your mom!).
If you have some very specific questions that I don’t address in the class, you can add an individual consultation with me for $50 more.
…Until you’re dragging your kids from event to event, leaving the tattered remains of your dignity—and any semblance of a nap schedule—behind you.
…Until you have to wrangle a toddler in a home full of people with expensive and breakable decor who may not support or understand your parenting choices.
…Until you have to deal with the fallout from the literal mountain of plastic, noisy, light-up gifts waiting for your children when you arrive at your in-laws' house.
The holidays can be a stressful time for many reasons. It’s overwhelming to travel with young kids, or to host family and throw off your routine. Suddenly you’re 12 years old again, and still the family outcast who doesn’t quite fit in with your “crunchy” methods.
It doesn’t feel so wonderful when you’re constantly on the defensive about why you’re “still:”
You need someone on your side. You need someone who not only gets you, but can give you an objective plan for the whole holiday season. You need a coach who can be on demand, when things get well….demanding.
"Stacy's been my personal cheerleader for a few years now. She was my health coach before I got married and transitioned seamlessly into being my "mom-of-a-high-needs-baby-coach" (yes, that's a thing) after my son was born.
When your days blend into your nights and your kid won't sleep and you're ALWAYS AWAKE and you feel like you might lose your mind, knowing even one person who's been through the same thing makes a world of difference. I love knowing Stacy is just a text away, armed with helpful articles, funny anecdotes about when her son was going through the 8th leap (does not napping for a whole week count as "funny?"), and reassurances that you're doing great, you're going to get through the afternoon, and yes, your kid will have to close his eyes and go to sleep eventually.
What are you waiting for? You, too, could have a cheerleader in your pocket -- or, over there, on the coffee table, just 2 inches out of reach, and you can't move because there's a sleeping baby on your chest.... Damnit. Guess you'll have to text her after nap time's over." 🤷🏻♀️
- Anni Metz, mom of one
With my Holiday Support Package you won't just survive this holiday season, you can thrive. Together, we’ll talk through your most pressing concerns about this holiday season and create an action plan to handle the next few months with grace and ease.
If you’re worried about dealing with family members, we’ll make a plan.
If you don’t know how to navigate parenting around extended family, we’ll make a plan.
If you’re just feeling overwhelmed with all the activities and events of the holidays and can’t even, we’ll make a plan.
And then you can text me! For realz.
12-year-old you could stomp off to your room. Since that's not a great option these days, you need to set yourself up for success, and have some backup (especially with your in-laws--amirite?).
You’ll have someone objective in your corner for the whole holiday season. You can’t be expected to navigate all this yourself while running on trail mix and fumes. So don’t.
"Coaching with Stacy was more fun, productive, and useful than I ever expected it to be. I already lead a healthy lifestyle, I’m well read on nutrition and exercise, and I already have good habits. I was skeptical that a coaching session would leave me with changes I was willing to make. I saw a nutritionist once and all she did was draw up a meal plan full of foods I didn’t like and an exercise plan that I didn't follow. I feared a similar experience.
Our session wasn’t about dropping some facts I already knew or telling me to make changes that look good on paper but don't fit into my life. She helped me identify where I wasn’t happy, ways I could make different choices that I was happier with, and drew up a plan of achievable goals and actions that we came up with together. I realized that one issue was the plethora of delicious, but not nutritious, free food available to me at work. She helped me identify why I was seeking afternoon snacks and ways I could make different decisions that fulfilled my needs in more positive ways. She even checked in to see how I was doing and where I was struggling. I started bringing different snacks to work and changed my routine a bit to allow for an afternoon walk or yoga break instead.
If I could have a Stacy in my back pocket all day every day, I would. Having her and her wealth of knowledge just a text away is definitely the next best thing. Rather than talking *at you*, she knows the right questions you don’t think to ask yourself. Everyone could benefit from coaching with Stacy."
- Julie Sanders, mom of 2
After their coaching sessions, clients are always joking that they want “a Stacy in [their] pocket” for when things happen.
You'll leave your call feeling prepared to face anything! (Or at least Thanksgiving dinner.)
I remember my oldest son’s first Christmas when we flew back to the snowy Midwest with a suitcase full of cloth diapers, went on “baby parade,” and my mom smuggled him into the other room so I couldn’t see her feed him a cup full of Cool Whip. It was exhausting.
Never again, we said.
Our next trip was much easier. We knew our limits, set firm boundaries, and had a plan. Our visit was relaxing and enjoyable. Now we go with two kids and survive!
It’s possible to enjoy the hustle and bustle of the holidays with your family in a way that works for you. With a solid strategy in place, you can visit on your terms, and move from reacting to responding, surviving to celebrating.
Now THAT'S a holiday gift that Santa can't bring you.
Your investment for the package is just $125. That’s less than the normal price of a single session!
Put your sanity back on the schedule this holiday season. You’re worth it.
You researched the @#$% out of pregnancy and birth. You grew an entire human. You found or fell into attachment parenting(ish) practices that worked for you.
You met that baby’s every need.
You answered their every cry.
You bonded and baby-wore like a boss.
...and the screaming started.
Your securely attached angel has developed not just needs, but wants. The Baby Book didn’t cover that, so now what the @#$% are you supposed to do?
You’re tired and just want some chocolate and a nap, not a screeching baby pterodactyl banshee head-butting you in the face (ow) and attempting to break every single thing you own. Usually in public while disapproving strangers judge you, your parenting skills, and your outfit that may (or may not) be clean.
Of course there’s conflicting advice, too! Ignore the tantrums. Be present. Don’t let him walk all over you. Let her be free range. You’re the parent. Follow your child’s lead.
Where’s that chocolate and nap, right?
You’ve never had a toddler before! If only you knew how to handle this chaos without losing your cool or your mind. If only you had tools to prevent those epic tantrums. If only you could communicate better with your pre-verbal screeching ball of energy.
Sometimes all it takes is reframing our expectations -- which is really hard with your first kid! When you know what's normal, when to worry, and how to handle those challenging situations, it makes it easier to make it to bedtime every night.
We'll navigate that transition from meeting needs to dealing with wants. You'll learn how to handle mischievous explorers of the world without sounding like a broken record of "NO NO NO." We'll dig into your parenting triggers and figure out why we REALLY get upset at our kids.
Then we'll move into how to work WITH our littles to give them control and choices where appropriate -- including parenting in public, the true test of your parenting ninja skills -- and how to play your way out of tough situations.
And you'll have a group of other parents in the same boat as you, frustrated by the same things, running on as little sleep.
And in the long run, you'll model how to handle big feelings, coach them through tough situations, and know how to hold space while also holding boundaries. These are the skills they'll need as adults that you can start fostering now, and what attachment parenting has laid a foundation for you to do.
I have been there. In fact, my second kiddo just turned 2, so I’m right in the trenches with you.
My oldest was a high-needs baby from day one, but the age between 12 and 18 months almost did us in. (Spoiler alert: We survived! And the second round is waaaaaay easier.)
As a health coach and obsessive researcher, I do the reading for you, then boil it down into what you really need to know to get through those long, toddler-y days. When you know the WHY of the approach, it's easier to execute successfully. But you don't have time to read the whole internet like I did -- and you don't need to.
I've answered these questions for my clients and Facebook group members over the last few years, so I decided to make it into a group experience so you don't feel like you're struggling alone. Because it's not just you.
“I was already working with Stacy when my sweet, loving baby turned into an actual human being with opinions and emotions, and I had to learn to navigate setting boundaries and limits. She helped me have more reasonable expectations and gave me resources on child development so I was more confident and comfortable as my parenting style developed. It was super helpful to have like-minded people to talk to and bounce ideas off of. It's navigating uncharted territory and you can feel really alone, especially if you have family/neighbors/friends/partners/others who don't necessarily support your approach. Stacy's reminders that "experts" aren't always right and that understanding that my child's path is unique gave me the tools I needed to grow as a parent.”
- Claire Keisch, mom to Logan
With community and a safe space to feel simultaneously frustrated and delighted by your child's growing independence, you can make it through this period, too.
Instead of answering questions on Facebook after you’ve discovered the problems, we’ll head them off at the pass so you feel prepared to deal with everything your toddler throws at you. Literally.
Week 1: Wants versus Needs (6/18)
Week 2: Creating a YES space (6/25)
Week 3: Implementation week / 4th of July (7/2)
Week 4: Parenting Triggers (7/9)
Week 5: Control, Choices, and Power Play (7/16)
Week 6: Parenting in Public (7/23)
You'll also get access to special access to talks about sensory activities for toddlers, getting your partner on the same page, and an extra talk about full-term nursing.
If you register before June 4th, you'll also get a bonus 15-minute individual consultation call with me!
You don’t have to despair not knowing what to do or if your kid will grow up to be a sociopath. You can vent in the group, try a new idea, take a deep breath, and know you’re doing the best that you can with the resources available to you.
We’ve got your back, and you’re doing great. If you have a child between 1 and 2 years old and feel like you have no idea what you're doing half the time, I'd love to support you.
Your investment for this 6 weeks of fun is just $167!
If you sign up by June 10th, you can also take advantage of a payment plan.
CLICK HERE to sign up and pay 2 installments of $85 each.
You're welcome to share the info with your partner, but if you’d both like to join the community for advice (and so your partner can read the info themselves), you can add them for just $25.
Are you ready? Click below to join me.
It practically can. The catch? You actually have to use that Instant Pot that you bought on Prime Day and never actually opened. But I’ll make it easy for you.
Your friends talked you into it (“Frozen meat in an hour! Perfect hard-boiled eggs!”) and you went for it, but if the learning curve felt too steep, I understand.
The recipes are full of acronyms, the cooking times feel misleading, and what if the recipe doesn’t turn out? It feels safer to cook dinner the way you normally do, even if it takes longer, to guarantee you’ll have a meal instead of hangry kids and an emergency situation on your hands.
On the other hand, it’s MAGIC. I am not A Person Who Burns Dinner — or I wasn’t, until I had a second baby. Then it was charred quinoa 3 times in a MONTH. I was seriously having an identity crisis.
Once I started using the Instant Pot, it freed me up to be present with my kids while dinner almost cooked itself. No burning, no stirring, just making an obstacle course out of the couch cushions until it was time to set the table.
This could be you! (Ridiculous kid activity is optional -- grab a glass of wine and put on Moana for the 937th time if that’s how you roll. I won’t judge!) But the Instant Pot in your closet, still in the box, isn’t cooking you anything.
In less than half an hour, you could be up and running with that not-so-scary new appliance. Depending on what time it is, you could even make dinner in it tonight.
I was skeptical of the cult-like devotion of my friends at first, too, but I finally bought an Instant Pot. I’m a control freak who never used my crock pot, and now I use my Instant Pot multiple times per week — sometimes even twice per day.
I’m the first to admit that I’m a giant nerd, so I researched the crap out of this thing. I read the manual. I read how-to guides on all the big blogs, and a few small ones. I wanted brown rice, and I wanted it now. As I kept explaining the basics to more and more friends, I suggested holding a hands-on class in San Diego. Logistics were complicated and non-local friends asked for an online option, so here we are.
It’s meant to be straightforward to get you cooking ASAP! The 3 time-saving videos will cover:
You also get a handout with some helpful charts, recipes, and highlights from the class.
And that’s it! In half an hour, you could say bye bye to that hectic mealtime rush and be ready to cook your first Instant Pot dish with confidence.
"I got my Instant Pot last year and I love it -- I use it all the time!
I just wish I had a time machine so I could have taken this class before I opened it. It would have saved a ton of time, and my life would have been so much easier."
- Becca Ribbing, mom of 2
CLICK HERE to buy. Your investment is just $47.
You swear you just gave birth eight seconds ago, but suddenly your baby is rolling over and eyeballing that burrito in your hands. Your pediatrician/sister/mother-in-law is telling you to start feeding your baby solids last week, but you're not so sure he or she is ready. You spent about 3 minutes on Google, saw so much conflicting advice you decided you'd rather do laundry, put down your phone, and haven't looked back.
That's how I felt when my oldest turned 3 months old and I realized I had limited time to figure out a plan. Would I make my own organic purees, or buy them at the store? Are those pouch things OK or filled with mold or what? Fruits first or veggies? What’s this “baby-led weaning” thing I keep hearing about? After I grew and nourished this small human from my own body up until now, would our nursing relationship change once food was introduced? *cue nervous hand-wringing*
You're tired enough already. Keeping another human alive is hard work. All you want is to know The Right Way to do this because you’re trying to be the best mom you can possibly be.
Instead of asking your mom group, talking to your pediatrician, buying 3 books and a baby food making machine (plus all those little trays for the freezer - are they BPA-free?), joining 6 more Facebook groups, and trying to figure out if peanut butter is truly evil or not, you can just take this course.
Save time, precious sleep-deprived brain cells, and yourself from judgmental Facebook comments.
Afterward, you'll have all the information you need to start feeding your baby with confidence. You'll understand the research and statistics behind the concepts, and have step-by-step instructions and lists of foods to offer by age and stage. It's all read and summarized for you because mom brain is real.
Before I was a mom, I was a health coach. When my first son was born, I applied my love of nutrition nerdery to figuring out how to set my son for success with healthy food. I really wanted there to be *one best way* so I knew I was doing it right.
The amount of conflicting information and opinions was overwhelming.
I came across the concept of Baby Led Weaning, read as much as I could find, and decided to try it -- along with purees. My son threw up purees, so that was the end of that experiment. BLW it was.
Friends started to ask me about our experience, so I told them (I have lots of opinions). Week after week at my mom group, I'd explain the idea, and if they asked questions I didn't know the answer to, I tried to find out.
After reading several books, what felt like a million websites, and every related study I could find, the information I compiled grew into a class I've taught locally here in San Diego since 2015. I’ve boiled all that information down into an easily digestible approach so you can make informed choices that are best for your family.
Your mom/friend/pediatrician means well, but they’re telling you what they did. To be fair, I tell you what I did, too, but as one example (and with two kids who had unique journeys).
"I didn't know baby led weaning was a thing when I had my first daughter, but I wanted to try it out with my second. I was too sleep-deprived to read long books or dig around for tips online -- I needed to learn from a mom who had already figured everything out.
Stacy is that mom! Her class helped me learn what I needed to know quickly, Through BLW I've seen my baby explore her curiosity about food and learn to confidently and safely feed herself."
- Jules Taggart, mom of 2
When parents leave my classes, the most common theme I hear is that they actually feel prepared. It's scary to be entirely responsible for the survival and well-being of a tiny person! Simply becoming a parent does not mean any of us know what we're doing. At least this way you have a roadmap for success in this area.
And I made it as easy as possible for you. After holding several "live" online classes, I realized that time zones and scheduling were for the birds (or people without kids).
"We planned to wait until our son was 6 months old to introduce solid foods, so I signed up for Stacy's class because I wanted to go into his 4 month pediatric appointment armed with up-to-date, accurate information about starting solids. I get bogged down reading ALL THE THINGS, and trusted Stacy to do the research for me and present me with the perfect guide to baby-led weaning: nothing more and nothing less than I needed to read. She did!
At 13 months my son continues to be an adventurous eater, devouring any and everything we give him. I recommend BLW to all of my friends who are parents, if for no other reason than it's just so easy. When we noticed our son had an egg sensitivity, Stacy helped us navigate that, too.
I hope we never have a picky eater (haha!), but if we do, I look forward to taking her toddler classes in the future!"
- Anni Metz, mom of one
You're just trying to be the best parent you can be, but there's a lot of conflicting advice out there. It's much easier to start solids once you have a foundation of knowledge so you actually feel like you know what you're doing.
It's about as close to a manual as you get with parenting.
Imagine yourself eating your own (warm!) food while your baby sits in his or her highchair eating the same thing. No slaving away batch-cooking vats of organic mush (do you even know where those freezer cube tray things ended up?), just serve dinner and enjoy mealtime together.
It's really that easy! (I go into more detail, I promise.)
The investment for the course is $75 which includes all course updates for free (I update my handouts every month or two as new research emerges).
That's actually a little less than seats in my live class for 2, plus gas, parking, and lunch. Plus you can pause and rewind!
All you have to do is CLICK HERE to register. You'll check out, then enter your name and email to get access to the course.
If you still have individual concerns that I don't address in the class, I also offer private feeding consultations over the phone or video conference. I would love to support you and your baby's health.
Feminism often gets a bad rap as something for lesbian femi-nazis, so suggesting you consider feminist parenting could sound extreme.
That is, until you realize that this craaaaazy idea simply mean that women should have the same social, educational, and economic opportunities as men.
It might be easy to see why people would want to raise feminist daughters - girls have a pretty vested interest in their own futures - but what may not be as obvious is how imperative it is that we raise feminist sons, as well.
As the mother of two boys, 2016 has been a rough ride. When my youngest was a baby I was relieved that I didn't have to deal with all the "baggage" that comes with a daughter and all the media pressure about weight and body image and clothes and all that. Then I learned that rape culture was so prevalent that raising a son who wasn't a rapist was more challenging that I must think.
At first I didn't realize that some of the things I did were feminist, they just made sense. Instilling a sense of body autonomy and teaching consent were practical things to do, but the more I understood about them, the more importance they had. When you have young kids it sounds like a slippery slope to compare haircuts and hugging grandma to rape culture, but it's not.
I'm no expert in this area. Intersectionality still makes my head spin a bit. I'm white and straight raising white sons, so this technically impacts them least of all.
And that's why it's so important to me.
You practically need a new college minor to sift through the literature around this, so here's a Cliffs Notes version of a crash course - a compilation of list articles with enough info to get you started. We're all making it up as we go anyway, but at least you'll have a foundation.
“DEAR IJEAWELE, OR A FEMINIST MANIFESTO IN FIFTEEN SUGGESTIONS” by Chimamanda Adichie
10 Ways Feminist Parents Raise Strong-Willed Boys To Be Amazing Men by Sabrina Joy Stevents
10 Things Feminist Moms Do Differently Than Any Other Parents by Jamie Kenney
11 Way to Raise a Feminist Son Because Feminism Is Good for Everyone by Britni de la Cretaz
5 Ways I Practice Intersectional Feminist Parenting by Akilah S. Richards
Why I Am Raising My Child to Be a Feminist and Why I Think You Should Too by Dan Arel
21 Ways to Raise a Feminist Child by Lyndsay
Want to Be a Feminist Parent? 4 Goals to Consider by Paige Lucas-Stannard
9 Way to Teach Consent to Your Toddler Before They're Old Enough to Explain It by Sarah Bunton
This is not exhaustive, but if we make an effort to listen and learn, and model that for our kids, we're on the right track.
My first birth almost three and a half years ago was an unmedicated vaginal birth in a hospital. We had a doula and everything went well. He was born just under 12 hours from my first contraction which got steadily faster and stronger until he was born.
I'll post more about the process of deciding on a homebirth another time, but this baby was born in our bedroom. I loved birthing at home. I'm also glad I hired Ariel Dolfo Photography to capture our birth since it went by so fast I barely remember it!
My first son was born at 40 weeks and 6 days, so I wasn't in a rush. I didn't feel "ready" yet when my due date rolled around.
Sunday I was 40+4, and the first time I felt like the baby was coming very soon was at 4am when I woke up to a few mild contractions. I didn't bother waking my husband up as they subsided and I went back to sleep.
We got up fairly early and I let him know that I thought "today is the day."