Holiday Survival Strategy Sessions – Small Business Saturday Special!

The holidays are here.

Halloween kicks off a sugar binge that only pauses briefly after New Years. You haven't even adjusted to the freaking time change when family obligations, gift lists, and weather-fraught travel knock you on your butt.

Whether this is your first holiday season as a parent (and whooooo, game changer, guys) or not, it's easy to get overwhelmed and have everything feel impossible.

Setting boundaries with your family or friends, trying to force a new dynamic into an old tradition, or starting new traditions entirely, and just trying to get your overstimulated kids to go the eff to sleep are just some of the possible challenges of the next six weeks.

Sound terrible?

What if it didn't have to be?

If you've ever been tired of adulting and being responsible and just wish someone else would think for you, this is the next best thing. It's called coaching.

I know, it sounds like something for athletes and rich people, but it's truly something everyone should experience at least once. Coaching isn't therapy. I don't really care why you and your mom don't get along, I DO care about how you're planning to handle it at Christmas dinner. If you have no idea, that's OK, we can figure it out together.

Here's how it works:

  • Schedule your session. Thanks, Internet magic!
  • Fill out the questionnaire in the process to let me know what's going on for you. Vent away!
  • Call me at the appointed time (pants optional). Phone or Skype, your choice, wherever you can focus.
  • We'll set up a game plan for how you're going to accomplish what you want to in the next month or so. This could be anywhere from "Keep self and kids alive while retaining sanity," to "Move entire family to live in a yurt." It's your life.
  • At the end of the session you'll get an email with some notes, your action steps, and any resources I mentioned on the call.
  • You go forth and kick ass.

45 minute session for just $50 through Sunday 11/27

Normally a single session runs about $200, but I want this to be easy. You probably have travel expenses, new shoes to buy because children just keep growing at inopportune times, and you picked your sister-in-law's name this year who will only wear socks knitted by indigenous women who are paid fair wages out of the fur of free-range heritage-breed alpacas named Ewan.

Give yourself a gift this holiday season. Give yourself 45 minutes - you don't even have to put on pants or pretend you showered. We'll focus on YOU.

Having an outside perspective really listen to what's going on and helping you map out a clear path is invigorating and powerful.

Give it a try.

Price goes up to $75 on Monday. I can't wait to support you - you're worth it.

A Crash Course in Feminist Parenting (the Cliffs Notes version)

Feminism often gets a bad rap as something for lesbian femi-nazis, so suggesting you consider feminist parenting could sound extreme.

That is, until you realize that this craaaaazy idea simply mean that women should have the same social, educational, and economic opportunities as men.

Whoa, right?

It might be easy to see why people would want to raise feminist daughters - girls have a pretty vested interest in their own futures - but what may not be as obvious is how imperative it is that we raise feminist sons, as well.

As the mother of two boys, 2016 has been a rough ride. When my youngest was a baby I was relieved that I didn't have to deal with all the "baggage" that comes with a daughter and all the media pressure about weight and body image and clothes and all that. Then I learned that rape culture was so prevalent that raising a son who wasn't a rapist was more challenging that I must think.

At first I didn't realize that some of the things I did were feminist, they just made sense. Instilling a sense of body autonomy and teaching consent were practical things to do, but the more I understood about them, the more importance they had. When you have young kids it sounds like a slippery slope to compare haircuts and hugging grandma to rape culture, but it's not.

I'm no expert in this area. Intersectionality still makes my head spin a bit. I'm white and straight raising white sons, so this technically impacts them least of all.

And that's why it's so important to me.

A Crash Course in Feminist Parenting

You practically need a new college minor to sift through the literature around this, so here's a Cliffs Notes version of a crash course - a compilation of list articles with enough info to get you started. We're all making it up as we go anyway, but at least you'll have a foundation.

“DEAR IJEAWELE, OR A FEMINIST MANIFESTO IN FIFTEEN SUGGESTIONS” by Chimamanda Adichie

10 Ways Feminist Parents Raise Strong-Willed Boys To Be Amazing Men by Sabrina Joy Stevents

10 Things Feminist Moms Do Differently Than Any Other Parents by Jamie Kenney

11 Way to Raise a Feminist Son Because Feminism Is Good for Everyone by Britni de la Cretaz

5 Ways I Practice Intersectional Feminist Parenting by Akilah S. Richards

Why I Am Raising My Child to Be a Feminist and Why I Think You Should Too by Dan Arel

21 Ways to Raise a Feminist Child by Lyndsay

Want to Be a Feminist Parent? 4 Goals to Consider by Paige Lucas-Stannard

9 Way to Teach Consent to Your Toddler Before They're Old Enough to Explain It by Sarah Bunton

This is not exhaustive, but if we make an effort to listen and learn, and model that for our kids, we're on the right track.

My Birth Story – Fast Natural Water Birth at Home

My first birth almost three and a half years ago was an unmedicated vaginal birth in a hospital. We had a doula and everything went well. He was born just under 12 hours from my first contraction which got steadily faster and stronger until he was … [Continue reading]

Playful Parenting Techniques That Work

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Why We Chose Baby Led Weaning

How is your relationship with food? Do you get enough veggies? Do you stress eat? Are you a sugar addict? This isn't to judge you - most of us struggle with food in some way or another. I'm not immune, either, I just have more tools than the … [Continue reading]

7 Reasons You Should Have a Doula

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The Paradox of the Lonely Mother

After becoming a mother you're rarely alone. My son's favorite place has always been pressed against me at all times. (I'm not sure how dads get a free solo pass to the bathroom but there has to be some mystery left in the universe.) Yet, at … [Continue reading]

One Month of Meal Planning (Gluten-Free and Vegetarian)

When I ran my January meal planning challenge, it was as much for me as for everyone else. I loved seeing what everyone else was making, what their goals were, and what changes they saw during the month. At our house, our goal was to save time, … [Continue reading]

The Biggest Secret of Parenting

Before my son was born I read a lot more about birth than parenting. Considering that information only covered about 12 hours from my first contraction, I had a lot of catch up to do once he arrived. And wow, the learning curve felt steep. When … [Continue reading]

February Self Care Challenge

I had so much fun doing the … [Continue reading]